So what did I miss? A lot actually. I have started joining memes, but due to my absence, I failed to join them continuously. But that’s just okay. I can still join them in the next meme week.. Though there are some that have been scheduled but were never posted as part because I forgot to link them..

Anyway, I am now starting to become alive again, although I am not fully well yet. And I so hate what greeted me today. This video shared by a fellow mommy blogger at our secret hiding place in Facebook. I will not add the video in this post as you can find them in You tube.. Instead, I would like to redirect you to a worthy post by another mommy blogger. You can view the video from there… CLICK HERE for Momblogger’s post. Simply put,  I share her sentiments. I am actually speechless as I watched the video.. It was like watching my daughter or my baby brother while being assaulted and humiliated, but I could not do anything about it. But then again, my daughter or my baby brother wouldn’t be in Willing  Willie gyrating and being laughed at for money, because they do NOT have to do that. Responsible parents would NOT allow anything like that to happen to their kids and family… Responsible parents and family will, at all costs, protect the rights of every child…. Such a disturbing scene breaks my heart…

I wish someone would file a case against Willie Revillame.. He has done so much to destroy a child’s innocence.. Bluntly put, it’s Child Abuse… and clearly an act of violence against Janjan… I do not know if there is a provision that will allow anyone not related to Janjan to file the case. I think there is… I think I read that somewhere, will check for it though. But hey, it’s on national television.. The MTRCB and DSWD should do something about this..  Rescue Janjan from his family and relatives..   I am sure, every person with his or her right mind would agree.. And those who say that it is purely entertainment, SHAME ON YOU! The video is another addition to giving a bad impression towards the Philippines and every Filipino..

When a man makes a pass at a woman who does not like the man doing it, the woman naturally feels bad. Same thing with all the other sexes and gender preferences. Because technically, if the recipient liked the act, then the two would be flirting and perhaps end in a sexual mood or may be a door to opening a good relationship sooner or later. No gender is ever exempted from this. Just as no gender is also exempted from abuse, neglect or harm..

I have friends telling me that they go into a different kind of relations all because they didn’t want to get hurt anymore. Man on man or women on women relationships that others would really raise an eyebrow at or genuinely accepted and tolerated. Well, we are in a new era and if we respect other people, we respect what they do with their lives.  But it’s a different thing when a woman manipulates, abuses and disrespects a woman.

Believe it or not, it is not only men who do acts of lasciviousness on a woman. And believe it or not, it is not only men who rape women. Sometimes, the woman or women that a woman trusts are the ones that hurt her.. With this in mind, we women must be keen with all the signs…

If you are merely an onlooker sitting from afar, you will wonder why the wife of 48 years will never mourn her husband’s passing.  You will wonder why all his 6 children never showed any pain or sorrow from his demise. They were just there. As if to tell people that at the end of the head of the family’s life, they are a family still, hence they have to be there.

TO BE CONTINUED..(will finish tomorrow, I am very sleepy already..)

This is a very powerful and insightful piece written by Alice Walker. Every woman’s shout-out to life..

WOMAN
TO STOP THE VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMAN,
WOMAN MUST STOP THE VIOLENCE AGAINST HERSELF.
WE CAN BEGIN TO DO THIS NOW THAT WE SEE A SKY
AND NOT A ROCK, A STICK OR A FIST,
ABOVE ALL OUR HEADS.
WOMAN
TO STOP THE VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMAN,
STOP THE VIOLENCE THAT YOU PERPETUATE AGAINST YOUR OWN SISTER
WHO IS A WOMAN,
YOUR OWN DAUGHTER WHO IS A WOMAN,
YOUR OWN DAUGHTER-IN-LAW WHO IS A WOMAN.
YOUR OWN MOTHER WHO IS A WOMAN.

WOMAN
TO STOP THE VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMAN,
STOP THE VIOLENCE THAT LIVES IN OPPOSITION TO YOUR LIFE,
DEEP IN YOUR OWN TERRORIZED
AND UN-CHERISHED HEART.

WOMAN
REMEMBER WHO WE ARE: NOT “GUYS”
BUT THE MOTHER OF ALL LIVING.
WE CREATE OUR OWN BLOOD
AND MILK THE CREATURES WHO OPPRESS US;
WHETHER THEY ARE MEN OR OURSELVES.

WOMAN
AWAKE!
ARISE!
STAND UP!
WOMAN
TO STOP THE VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMAN,
GET UP ON YOUR PERFECTLY UNBOUND FEET!

WE HAVE LOST THE EARTH LIVING IN OUR KNEES.

-By Alice Walker

This was performed in MMRP in VDAY CDOC 2008. I guess, if all women listen to the VOICE of  OTHER WOMEN, they will be able to find a better understanding of what the fight is all about.

So when she recovered from that near death situation, she was brought back to the center to live with the head mistress. She joined the others in the recovery program, until she has regained enough consciousness to be able to decide to file VAWC, and that was what they had done. Medical records in place, and her affidavit of complaint. Soon after, the case followed through smoothly. Unfortunately, on the day of the trial, the common law husband fled and did not show up anymore. The children were left with the new common law wife who took upon herself the responsibility to feed them, until she too felt that it was too much to bear and left the children with the neighbors. They were taken to a government facility and Lucita’s 2 kids were later on requested to join her at the center while the other two, being that they are not hers, await the coming of their relatives to take them home.

With her children beside her, she was little by little picking up.. She still stares at walls but not as much as when she was first brought back from the hospital. Unfortunately, she is not as positive as all the others who she spends sessions with. Whenever group sharing takes place, she would always be silent and not a word would come out from her. Fun sessions or serious sessions, she has the same expression. If you look her in the eye, you will see nothing. And with that I wondered. It’s like she is no longer there in that very body that holds her spirit. It’s like, she’s emptied and no matter how much we try to reach out to her, to fill her with encouragement, with hope, she’s still empty. I can imagine filling water on a pail with a hole at the bottom. And what’s worse is that, to touch her is impossible for she is evasive to human touch and human connection.  it would have been easier if she wasn’t.  I wish I could do something more.. but I feel that all my knowledge and all the skill that I have remembered to use in the process seem futile….It’s like she has kept quiet for so long and she intends to keep quiet still– especially now that her case is on a stand-still. Her children, as young as they are, are suffering too. Mothers are supposed to be chatty and informative so children will be able to easily adapt and learn new things. Such silence may also hinder some growing and nurturing on the part of the children.

I am seeing them again next week. Till then, I would not know how things will become.

Lucita is just one of the many women who have suffered because of some stupid, selfish and arrogant man, who trampled and vexed her spirit. I may not understand how she is coping because of lack of communication, but I do know that encouraging her and giving her love and attention will change her little by little.. Well, I am sure we will go to that– sooner or later, but it will come.

I met Lucita (not her real name) in the center six months ago, and during our first meeting she was silent and always stared blankly at the wall. I was given a few short details of the reason why she was with us and I found out that she had been fighting her common law husband in her fight against VAWC. The day she was brought in, she was black and blue with blood, cuts and bruises, and was almost lifeless. She then was brought to the hospital and eventually recovered from that fateful afternoon when she almost lost her life. Well, her common law husband (live-in partner) came home, brought with him another woman and sent her away, telling her to leave behind their children. Since she refused to leave her 2 kids with him, and his 2 kids from a previous relations, he gave her the punch and kick. The man made her look and feel so small by bringing home another woman, and physically abused her in front of her children. That was enough trauma for the kids to endure. Apparently, she was dragged by him to the streets and went back inside the house and locked her out for good. Someone saw her almost lifeless body and brought her to the center and then to the hospital.

Hearing all these, I wish everything is as easy as finding Movers Orange County to have her move to a different location. Sigh!

(To be continued… )

Sometimes, using the streets can be effective, but only to call attention. After that, what’s next?

Women walked the streets on March 8, 2010 in celebration of  the International day for women.  Some of them who joined the walk were known organizations to take the streets every time they have issues of injustices and would want immediate attention and action for them.  Sure enough, because our justice system here in the Philippines is quite slow and often times viewed by many  others as an unjust system, we come to witness many more episodes of men and women taking the streets for action.  But where is justice there? I find that it will just be an added burden and  won’t necessarily be effective.

On a personal level, we can actually go ahead and sue the person who wronged us, by virtue of the fact that we have a constitution and the justice system plays the ground according to the rules of  law.  And like a game, we just need to have good players who will play the game for us. That is where your lawyers would come in. It is upon their hands that the battle will be won. So that, even if you are on the side of the truth, it can still be twisted and made into a wrong, then you lose.  That is what we call,  strategies and the works to win a legal battle.  Perhaps,  it is true that lawyering is the dirtiest of all occupations.  I read that somewhere ages ago.. Why? Because even if  the lawyer knows that his or her client is at fault, he or she can not simply resign and say that he will stop lawyering because he knows that his client’s faults will make him lose and break the case. A lawyer, no matter what the ground of his client is, will have to abide  by the rules of court and by all means, win the case for his client, whether he is truly responsible for the crime or not. That explains why some lawyers would resort to certain actions to undermine the opponent, with the help of some of the family and friends of his client. Some ways would be drastic and entails rigorous efforts, while others may seem laid back yet delivers a point that breaks the opponent’s claims.  In that way, they will surely win the case or the opponent will give up and withdraw the case. Either way, it will be a victory for his client, and he gets paid..but is there justice there? Not for the victims of course.

In this day and age, there are only a few good lawyers who really work for the good of  humanity and justice to be properly served.

As for the victims who are not able to get justice, well, justice is not only mandated by the laws of man and the nation. There is also Divine and Natural Justice. God’s law and The Divine,  Nature’s Law and Rules of  Karma. So that, if the guilty  is able to escape his punishment because he has fled or his family and friends have helped him escape, time will come that God and Mother Nature will ask him to pay his dues.. And that will be much more than the punishment he has escaped from..

Then we can say that JUSTICE IS SERVED!

]]> http://www.darlingaguilar.com/2010/03/how-do-we-get-justice.html/feed 0 http://www.darlingaguilar.com/2009/08/the-magna-carta-of-women.html http://www.darlingaguilar.com/2009/08/the-magna-carta-of-women.html#comments Mon, 17 Aug 2009 14:50:23 +0000 Empowered Mom http://www.darlingaguilar.com/?p=597 Today, my best friend Egee informed me that she read in the paper yesterday about RA 9710 or THE MAGNA CARTA OF WOMEN.. I searched for it online and the first thing I saw was that from Senator Pia Cayetano‘s website.. then the ones at Inquirer.net, where it has the positive news and the one about the opposing bishops… tsk..tsk..tsk..

Needless to say, I am rejoicing about this news… At least now my path is clearer and wider… It was not fair to begin with. I am not a bad person but I was the only one suffering the cost… And what high price to pay for my mistake…(My mistake was falling for the wrong person who seemed perfect in the four years before the pregnancy…) Why? Because I am a “woman”, while the irresponsible “man” walks freely with a worry free life… I guess what I will work on now is for him to waive his rights. After all, he is not interested nor concerned of the child.. And I am no longer afraid to stand up because I know the law will back me up—

Thanks to all the authors and co-authors of this bill.. Finally a new chapter in the lives of women… And Madam Arroyo for signing it last Friday…

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