Whenever good or bad things happen, and we have to show appreciation or disapproval, express happiness and initiate a positive encounter or even expressing apologies, it is but right to do it personally.  Most people who have become successful in their chosen fields know this for a fact. That when we do things and we do them in a personal manner, we are more successful and happier in the aftermath.

Take for instance, an invitation to become a judge for a certain contest, or in the most personal level, asking certain persons to become one of the sponsors in a christening or even in a wedding. The proper way is to take time to visit the persons involved and express your intentions positively, with humility. No one will surely say no to that. Do you ever notice that sometimes, whenever one is already a sponsor yet during the event itself, a proxy takes his or her place? Some people sometimes do that, especially if the intention was not personally delivered. It is but improper to simply send off the invitations but the ones on the invitations as part of the entourage is not even consulted or asked yet as to their roles. We can never assume that once it’s on the invitation, the persons concerned will like it automatically, or feel indebted or proud of being part of such.  Most often, if it’s not personally asked for, it is not sincere, thus, it also equates to non-attendance or proxy. That is why we can never blame them who will not at all show up..