Making it Last..
Thursday, June 24th, 2010
Ever wonder why some marriages last and while others don’t? Well apart from having a good sensitive partner, a good provider, an understanding and loyal friend, and a great lover, some people are lucky to have partners who are spontaneous and open, and unassuming in every way. Like, can you imagine a woman who you think is a conservative dresser but when it’s time for her and her lover, she goes the extra mile and wears sexy lingerie with matching sexy panties, and vice versa. I always hear couples who have been married for many years say that the partner should be what the partner fears the other will look for.. Hmm.. I kinda agree to that.. But then again, I kinda disagree too— I think true love is not measured by just being sexy in the bedroom.. It’s much much more than that. Because, I have known a lot of couples who are married for quite a while, and they claim to have the best in everything, yet, one of them has a secret rendezvous and a secret life– well, you get the picture. I think it is more on commitment. When one is committed to the other, even if the passion is gone, he or she will find a way not to get lost in the process and still move to commit more to the relationship. For me, that is what marriage is all about. It’s always an endless battle and a useless battle if one wants to move away while the other is the only one fighting to make it work, because it takes two to tango. And if there’s a third party involved, better give in to the third party who has already done so much damage already. For even if the couple will be back together again, the relationship is already stained and it will never be the same again… it’s like a broken vase that’s glued together again to make it whole again.. if you look at it from afar, it is whole, but if you look closer, it’s just not the same as how it used to be..
