EMPOWERED MOM

Remember one time I ranted about a colleague who is a user and one who thinks she is above everyone else at school? Well this post is inspired by what she said a couple of months back. She said that unmarried woman have no right to become mothers. I could have reacted negatively, but I simply listened to her rumblings that afternoon when we learned that a Grade 7 student got pregnant from the advisory class of another colleague and the father is another Grade 7 student from another colleague’s class. I understood her cause because she had been married for many years yet never had a child. She added that motherhood is only for those who are ready, like herself, but life is unfair that those who are not supposed to become mothers are given the opportunity. When the pregnant child was asked about her pregnancy, about her plans and about what happened between them and her boyfriend, it was evident that she was forced to do pre-marital union every time her parents would leave for work at night, being masseurs at divisoria. And from the time of conception, the boyfriend wanted the baby aborted, which she almost did, harming herself during the fun run where she almost collapsed and in other means like taking bitter herbs given by her boyfriend.

I feel sorry for the pregnant child, but I was also happy to hear that at the last two months of her pregnancy, she was to deliver the baby and take care of it when it gets born.  As to the boyfriend, irresponsible as he is, has vanished in thin air. He has not been attending classes and no one knows his whereabouts.

So where is this post leading? Hmmm.. let us see.. hehehehe…

There are so many cases of teen-age pregnancy in our society– whether it happens among the well to do or the poor, it is still teen-age pregnancy. If the father is raised well by his parents, he will stand by his responsibility or there would have been no teen-age pregnancy to begin with. But if he is raised by a bad mother, the woman will bear the burden all by herself because the mother of the man will help him shun away from his responsibilities— I saw so many of these kinds of woman already. Good if the family of the female can psychologically, spiritually and financially support her. If not, it will be more burdensome to deal with so many other aspects of raising a child. I have seen so many of these problems before I became a mom— and I feel for these kids because it will not be easy. I was a professional who was not able to get a job because the school wanted me to get married first. But of course, with the Magna Carta of Women, all that changed. So with the ramblings of our colleague, we told her that our school can not kick her out because that is against the Magna Carta of Women, and if the school or the department will curtail that child’s right, the department shall face more damage than its intention. What’s with all these discrimination anyway? Single mothers are even better mothers than those who bring their children in a family where the father is jobless and would always waste time and money drinking and hurting the family members rather than helping the wife raise the kids.  Or the mother who sold her own daughter to strange men online for money. And there could be worst scenarios… Besides, in my humble opinion, motherhood is a gift. We are given this gift when we are ready—- with readiness comes many forms. One could be financially ready, others may not. I do not know how to explain this but, motherhood is a miracle by itself. It may come unwanted, but soon after, we will know its purpose in our lives.

I remember a classmate of mine in grade school got pregnant when we were already in college. She was diagnosed to have scoliosis, which is a medical condition in which a person’s spine is curved from side to side not allowing the sufferer from getting pregnant. After her first born, four other kids followed. The doctors told her during her first pregnancy that she shouldn’t pursue it for it may cost her her life, but lo and behold, it cured her, if that is how the miracle is.

Sometimes, or most of the time, it is the feeble minded that does most damage because of their notion that unmarried women have no right to become mothers. Then I have observed that in our department, those who asked so many questions about my parenthood behind my back are the very ones who never were able to produce their own kids, so they just had to adopt. Well, adoption is another form of blessing, whether one is married or not. But I hope, for those who are married, and have adopted kids, lay-low on being judgmental arrogant people to us single parents… you do not know how difficult our journey to survival is in this cruel world!

Now, if you are a single mom, and dream of completing a family so your child can have a father too, choose one who can actually father his own child first, rather that making him do all the spending for your child, and leaving his very own for your selfish advantage.

To my fellow teachers, Happy Mothers Day to all of us. Motherhood is present in the classroom too. To my lady bosses, Mothers Day is at the workplace too. Thank you, Happy Mothers Day!

To my aunts who loved and cared for me and my siblings, Thank you. To my grandmothers on both sides, Happy Mothers Day too.

And to my mom, Thank you. Happy Mothers Day!

To my Lili, thank you for the Mother’s Day breakfast in bed dearrie.. You just know how to treat mommy’s sick self today… I have actually found motherhood to be a blessing. I never asked for a bright child, and I was given one— consistent gold medalist since Kinder. A thoughtful happy little girl despite our status in life, giving and passionate in all her endeavors— which leads me to believe that I have raised my daughter well.. and I shall strive to raise a better citizen for the country and the world…

I never asked for more than what I was given, yet I was blessed far beyond what I can imagine… I have a daughter some parents could only dream of.. Thank you UNIVERSE! Happy Mothers Day to All!

Am supposed to watch my little brother’s game today, but I couldn’t. My allergies have tied me to this bed, and I itch all over despite the continued medication. I can’t go to warm places as the rashes will grow in size, if that is how we should quantify them. I have bathed several times, air-condition is on and will cost me lots in electricity bills, and my knees shake each time I stand up. Ummm, I think the latter I attribute to living practically on this bed.

Anyway, I managed to attend our testing and sealing of PCOS machines yesterday, and it sucked 300% as I itched all over. It was after all so warm at school and dusty too. I had to choose what to eat which made me realize I didn’t go hungry until I felt really famished, hahaha. The activity started late because the PCOS arrived late, but we finished before five in the afternoon, so that was alright. But when I got home, I felt even more weak. And the rashes spread wildly all over for the hours that I was away from this bed. So what should I do then? Bring this bed to school come election day? ahahahaha…

Kidding aside, I am alright, the medicine just takes quite a while to heal me. But I know I will be better on Monday. Tomorrow, and Sunday– Mother’s Day, it will be me and this bed on a full day, hahahaha

If I didn’t quit XLibris, my last and higher stint as one handling call center managementI think I will still be hooked on the floor-life at midnight until 7 in the morning. But I so love that stint because at Xlibris, we were treated fairly by higher management. In my previous call center stints, I always felt like a kid who does not know anything because of how our supervisors treated us.  Well, it is not really a BPO in all its entirety, it is of course a print when you need it book company, but we have everything, from authors, copy-writers, call center agents dealing with customer related concerns, and a whole lot more. We didn’t have irate customers, but we have had a few problems that were easily handled. I bet my batch-mates are still there. It was a good experience and I had a good 5-man team/group where all of us, handle different aspects of the business. Our over-all head was a guy younger than I, I guess, but he understood my concerns as a single mom who had to leave a daughter at the province to work. And that eventually made me choose a bittersweet decision of leaving the company that I have grown to love, at least that short time with them. There I saw real people who didn’t have to dive deeper to be above someone else. We were there, working and having fun. At the end of each day, we pat each others’ backs for a job well done. I wonder how the guys are right now.. or where they are now… hmmm..